Have you ever experienced any of the
following in your relationships?
Does your partner:
- Become overly jealous
- Want to know where you are and who you are with at
- Call you names, put you down, swear at you?
- Tell you how to dress, how to spend your money, what
- Control your money (take your paycheck, deny you access
to bank accounts)?
- Prevent you from seeing friends and family?
- Threaten to hurt you, your children, or your family?
- Destroy your personal items?
- Throw things at you?
- Get very angry at you for no apparent reason?
- Force or manipulate you into
having sex when you don’t
- Hit, push, kick or physically harm you in other ways?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions,
you could be at risk of or already exposed to domestic
Risk factors for the possibility of abuse include:
excessive jealousy, attempts to control you (telling
you what to do), losing temper for no reason, a history
of violent behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse.
Domestic violence comes in many forms:
Verbal abuse (includes
calling you names, putting you down, insulting you,
embarrassing you in front
of others, verbally threatening you);
Emotional abuse ( includes withholding
affection, attention, and appreciation in order
to manipulate you into doing
what he/she wants, giving you the silent treatment,
isolating you from friends and family);
Financial abuse ( includes preventing
you from getting a job, keeping money from you,
taking your paycheck,
giving you only a small allowance, getting you
fired from your job);
Sexual abuse (includes forcing
you to perform sexual acts when you don’t want
to, flirting with others in front of you, withholding
as a form of punishment);
Physical abuse (includes hitting,
punching, pushing, kicking, pulling hair, slapping,
hurting your pets,
breaking your things, throwing things at you).
There are many behaviors besides those on the above
list that could lead to domestic violence. If you have
experienced any of the above situations, or anything
else you feel uncomfortable with, you can get help.
Dr. Fasse has been certified as a domestic violence
counselor in California. She has completed a 40-hour
specialized training in domestic violence education
and treatment at the domestic violence shelter, A Safe
Place, in Oakland. She has worked with many clients
who have witnessed or experienced domestic violence
Dr. Fasse is available for afternoon
and evening appointments at her downtown Benicia, California
office on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Please
feel free to call Dr. Fasse at 415-225-1202, or email her,
if you would like to set up an appointment, make a
referral, or get more information on: Trauma & Abuse
Adolescent & Family Counseling; Individual
Counseling; or Domestic